A Lounge Pants Self Intervention and My One Word for 2014.

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After my last child Oliver was born, I hated my body. Even though I lost most of my pregnancy weight,  everything looked weird. I would try clothes on and stare at the alien form reflecting back at me. I had poufs where I  never poufed. I had big droopy cha cha’s and found myself  missing my double A’s (I never saw that coming!).  The things I used to wear now gave me an obscene amount of floppy cleavage and a big scary fold over the back of my pants. Not the look I was going for.

So I did what any women would do in this state of physical and mental chaos. I gained weight, stopped working out and let myself go. The depression that had been chasing me took over. Okay, maybe not every woman would do what I did, but that is what happened to me. Sue me

I had spent  twenty years a very long time in the beauty industry  working as a hairstylist. I had worked in a high end salon that demanded I looked well-groomed and stylish at all times. After years of living in that world, I was having an image crisis. I used to help women through these. I felt like a shadow of myself.

Nothing in my closet fit anymore and then one day I discovered P.J./lounge pants at Costco that could be worn in public and to bed. So I slept and ventured out in the same pairs of stretchy pants for days. I stopped wearing makeup and doing my hair;  it seemed silly to do when I was wearing lounge pants 24/7. I began to think of myself as “The Mom Who Let Herself Go”.  I believed people were whispering “Do you see much weight she has gained?”  I felt ashamed and suddenly wished instead of getting fat I would become invisible.

Alright, fat is harsh and you may be reading this and thinking what on earth is she talking about? I’m sorry, but this was a lot bigger then exploding out of my pants. My soul was hurting.

At the beginning of 2013, I weighed the most I have ever weighed not pregnant.When I stepped off the scale I made a quiet decision to change. So quiet, I would not even acknowledge it myself, I couldn’t bear letting myself down again. I did drop a bit of weight at first, but not much changed.

Six months ago I am not sure what switched. I was just woke up feeling fed up and I’d had enough. It took the whole six months to lose eight pounds, but I lost it. In case you are wondering,  I stopped eating after dinner (mindless carb fests) and became a vegetarian that still eats bacon (who can resist bacon?). I know, I am not really a vegetarian, but I do eat a lot healthier. I was meat phobic prior, so this switch was really easy for me. I don’t miss it at all, except when I am at the Keg.

It is not the weight loss (well it helped) that has me feeling better,  I think it was the caring enough about me to do something. I believed every negative thing I had told myself when I looked in the mirror, but taking that one small step allowed a hope to flicker in me, it cracked the door open enough that God was finally able to reach in and pull me out of my misery.

I had allowed my weight to become the “thing” in my life. We all have our stuff that at some level we battle with. That thing. I have several, today I feel comfortable talking about my weight and ugly wardrobe.  I can’t say I really have a food addiction. I just overeat carbs….often. This “thing”, I put it on an altar at the centre of my life.  I allowed it to fester and grow, until I no longer had control of it and lost all perspective. It broke my heart.

This year, I am going to look in the mirror. I am going to stop searching for the old me, and embrace the women staring back. Those saggy cha cha’s? They nourished my wee babies. Those really curvy hips? They held my babies.  I will put on makeup and throw away my dodgy lounge pants (pictured above), because even if I gain back fifteen pounds, I am worth it.

This is not a fluffy New Year resolution; this is my truth. The last months of 2013 have left me feeling pregnant with expectation for 2014, I hear a resonating ENOUGH, from heaven. As part the the SheLoves tribe, we ring in our new year with OneWord. This is my third year of choosing one word to shape my year and it is very powerful. I encourage you to check out the links! Mine for 2014 is “Better”, not to be confused with “perfect” cause perfection is for suckers.

It is the promise of a better life.

I want to live better.

Feel better.

Look better.

I want to get better and shake off this damn depression.

I will treat myself better.

I want to change the world for the better and I can’t do that if I am invisible.

For the record, I have gone shopping twice (and bought stuff). I had a massive shop at Sephora($$). I may need to pace myself out though, Ryan will need a second job to fund my self-improvement mission.

Signed,

Hot Stuff.

Happy New Year’s!!!

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Have you ever been in a rut? How did you dig yourself out? I would love to hear it!

 

 

 

 

 

 

6 Responses to A Lounge Pants Self Intervention and My One Word for 2014.

  • Vera Raposo says:

    Hey Daniela,

    It’s funny I *just* sent out an email to my subscribers yesterday about wanting to live & feel better. Mostly though I want to find my desire to grow tomatoes again, the joy of painting, plucking the dead flowers from my petunia hanging baskets. I haven’t done ANY of these things for many years, I pray for the desire to want to do these again. Thank you for sharing!

    PS. love your sign off, hot stuff — so perfect!

  • Love you, ALL of you!

    I still not sure I see the curvy hips you are referring to but we can agree to disagree.

    I love that I have gotten to see SO much more of you in the latter part of the year! January date? Perhaps IKEA date! Take me with you when Idli and you go. :)

  • Lisa Nunes says:

    I too was in a rut…for fourteen years and I too was loving my yoga pants, no makeup, ponytail wearing self until I went to a healing room with no expectations and God set me free from a childhood riddled with abuse, abandonment and rejection. I came out a new creation, although I was born into the church, baptized and accepted Christ for myself at fourteen, I finally saw Jesus’ love for me and started wearing makeup again, doing my hair and left the yoga pants for the gym. I had gained thirty pounds from my pregnancy with son, carried it into my pregnancy with my daughter and have been wearing it as badge of honour for fifteen years. I have dropped ten pounds by just wearing makeup and pretty clothes again, although I still sport the ponytail because I need a refresher course on using my hair straightner…tee hee. Thank you for your honesty and may God shine upon you in 2014 and may you truly be free. My one word for 2014…steadfast!!!!

    • Oh Lisa, this blessed me. Thank you for your transparent honesty, and yay for you pushing through. Please search youtube for a tutorial on hair. You honestly can find anything on YouTube or Pinterest. xo

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